Posts Tagged ‘Control’

Some of you have asked for the personal reflections I shared at the Dioko Family Workshop… well, here they are with the “punch line” first:

When my own “control freak” alarm goes off, I ask myself these recalibrating questions:

  1. Am I acting in wisdom?
  2. Am I radiating the fruit of the Holy Spirit?
  3. Am I (rightly) representing who God is?
  4. Am I cultivating holiness?

So, why have I settled on these 4 questions? Because: as I studied the Christian Scriptures, I realized four truths about healthy control. Healthy control (self-control) is a sign of wisdom. The Book of Proverbs in the Bible backs up this reflection (see Proverbs 29:11). Second, healthy control (self-control) is part of the fruit of the Holy Spirit. (see Galatians 5:23) Third, healthy control is delegated. If Jesus is the King of Kings as the Christian Bible states, then any controlling-authority I have is delegated from Him. Fourth, healthy control leads to holiness. As I submit to the control of God, it leads to right-living in the eyes of God. (Romans 6:22)

marionetteDo you have the control-freak gene? (What if you have it and don’t realize it?) How do we keep up healthy-control when there is “crazy” all around us?

This quiz (written by Dr. Albrecht) was published in Psychology Today:

1. Do you “help” other people drive – tell them what route to take, when to turn, where to park, remind them that the traffic light has changed?
2. Do you devote a lot of attention and energy to keeping your personal environment organized?
3. Do you give people a lot of “shoulds” and “oughts” – unsolicited advice, suggestions, and “constructive criticism?”
4. Do you have lots of personal rules, routines, rituals, and ceremonies?
5. Are you the one who takes over and orders other people around when the situation seems confused?
6. Do you dislike depending on others, accepting help from them, or allowing them to do things for you?
7. Do you insist on “being right,” having things done your way, or having the final word?
8. Do you “over-plan” simple activities?
9. Do you find it difficult to admit making mistakes, being wrong or misinformed about something, or acknowledging that you’ve changed your mind?
10. Do you become angry, irritable, or anxious when someone or something makes you late, when things don’t start on time, or things don’t go according to plan?

Interpret Your Score:
41 – 50: yep, you’re a control freak.
31 – 40: you probably have some control issues.
21 – 30: you can live and let live.
10 – 20: are you being honest?